Is it true that people can only understand what you are trying to say only based on their perception? There is a saying “To be loved is great but to be understood is profound”. How often do we come across people that mesh with our souls like no other, build a foundation based on opening that side of yourself that was hidden from the world, you think “Ahh this is it” he/she understands everything I am, only months after feel as if that person does not really understand you at all.
Sometimes we create our own scenarios by our thoughts, our decisions, what we allow, what we don’t. Funny though.. in every situation, what one person takes for granted someone else is praying for. In life things are simple if we just read beyond the words, if we feel what someone is trying to convey. “The desire to share comes with the desire to be understood”. Sometimes how you bring things across can be considered an attack but most times it is a cry from within someone just saying “I feel”. If you didn’t matter would anyone be trying to share what hurts them ?
Listening has become so difficult in this ever changing world. To listen with your soul bypasses that which you hear. That resounding feeling that you get when someone you love is trying to allow you inside them. That feeling of knowing that with just a little understanding comes deep connection. How we view others, what our perceptions are is not sometimes what things really are. Listen, you will hear, Listen, you will feel.
Some cut the very foundation on what something was built on by just disregarding others, by throwing what they think or feel aside because they think it should not be felt. Who are we to dictate what someone else feels. I am not talking about the times where people just make issues out of nothing but even in those situations it is still a cry to be understood. That person is trying to say “please just listen” I want to be heard.
I went to a gathering and in that sacred space when I closed my eyes I found something that I thought I had lost recently.. “listening to my own voice”. Just as we would like to be understood by others, we ourselves have to understand ourselves. That truth that resides within us that allows us to have that “aha moment”. Listen to your own voice and don’t lose it by trying to sing someone else’s song.
I asked one of my friends to go with me to that place but in talking with her — her mind changed from going to not going. I wanted to understand what she was feeling as in her words didn’t give me what was going on in her mind. I just had to close my eyes and understand the words she didn’t say. And in that moment … I understood.
Find the wisdom to go beyond words.. find the ability to not take things as attacks but rather someone trying to make you understand that which makes them feel. You will be surprised how much you can learn and how much peace you can create within.
“Happiness is the journey, not the destination” .