Ever had someone in your life make you feel wrong about yourself – wrong about the decisions you make, wrong for loving them too much, wrong for doing your hair – making yourself look nice, wrong for caring, wrong for putting your life on hold just because you choose them?? Its all over the world – u feel so stifled because you are not sure if your next decision is going to be the right one – u walk on egg shells thinking “oh is he/she going to like this? “ .
STOP NOW, your decisions for all the above is NOT wrong – it’s the choices you make to be kind to someone else. If you realize that a relationship is making you feel this way – let go of the negatives as later down you will find yourself hating yourself for it. I always believe – change your thoughts – change your life — don’t give people like this a second thought – they are there only as our teachers to bring us to the best of who you can be.
Sometimes when you sit down and wonder how many years you wasted being unhappy – u feel worse as you did nothing about it. Happiness is a state of mind and does not lie in the hands of someone else. Never underestimate the potential to be free, free to be yourself, free to give , care, love and touch every single soul that you come in contact with – even if its with a smile, a touch or maybe just some words of inspiration.
I always like to give a story — I remember one of my friends giving me a story of her life – she gave up doing photography to marry the man of her dreams as he did not want her to work. She will do her hair and it’s a problem – she will do things for him and she will be told that she is caring too much. For years she resented the fact she gave up her dream to be someone he wanted her to be. Is it worth it? It never is, nothing is wrong with her choice as she did something she wanted to do at the time, however, the difference is he made her feel wrong about it. If the appreciation, love care and assistance was there she would have looked at him everyday with a smile on her face and say – I love him – he is worth it – wow what an amazing feeling.
Its hard to know if someone is worth it or not – u have to go through the trials and tribulations – but one thing I learnt is that – never allow someone to make you feel less of yourself. Never allow them to take away your right to be free – to make your own choices and to co exist in the environment that is pleasing to all involved. Don’t let anyone steal your right to smile.
You have a RIGHT to be happy – make it happen.