Weird name for a blog post won’t you say? What can this possibly be about. We have so many constants in our lives that sometimes it never hits you until it hits you. There are people in our lives that are constant. These people are the ones that make up your family but they are binded by blood. I am not speaking of them, I am speaking of the friend that no matter what they will find themselves there for you. How beautiful is that ? how sacred that can be.
I remember one time someone I considered closest to me wrote me a letter, for some reason last night I came across that letter and in the end it said. “If you ever need me, please just message, it can be a few days from now or 10 years from now.” I am and will be a constant. The letter actually brought tears to my eyes as they turned out not to be a constant but more so a distant memory. We have so many reasons to give up but we never choose the reason to stay. I also remember another saying and this feels so true for me. “If you cannot handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”
While reflecting I came to another realization that one more thing is constant and that is change. Life is hard sometimes according to Ed Sheeran… that man was so right in his song “Photograph”, we wait for people to come “home”. Not knowing these people set up their own mansions elsewhere… there energies channeled in the things they see as important.. They end up taking things for granted and leave you to your life while their journey and yours move on.
Sometimes you are stuck in a place where you wonder if to try or if to just close that chapter in your book. You sit, you stop and think of all the laughs, the times you would have to hold your stomach laughing and it makes the trying seem so worthwhile. You think of how easy it was to say anything to these constants. But to me if you have to try to get things back then that is a realization in itself. Things happen, of course it does and we learn what is important and what isn’t, but when these constants just take you for granted and allow friendships to go down then it is time to understand that the person was here for a reason not a lifetime.
That’s where the sadness is and you feel like kicking yourself sometimes when you realize how much energy you put into the ones that even have lied to you from the beginning of the friendships. You bypass that and find the souls warmth. You find the good in everyone and build on that from the ground up.
We have all loved and lost but that’s relationships for you. Friendships however sets that foundation for you to handle the changes in life. Not sure if anyone saw “Girls trip” it is that group of friends that stood by each other no matter what. When they walked away they found their way back. They would see each other at their worst but still find the blessings in the union. They are the ones that know “YOU”.
Take heart and don’t let the constants that you thought you had leave you with a broken heart. In the song “I hope you dance” it said “When you feel like giving up, reconsider”. Smile because it happened and take from these constants what they were meant for. The journey of a lifetime starts with a single step. Hold the hands of the ones that are willing to hold yours and never let go and find in it the beauty of what we call friendships .