I came across a gift today that was given to me by someone close a long time ago.. Funny how you cant throw certain things away because they have sentimental value. Some gifts we keep .. some we throw away .. some we don’t like .. some we just love… some we never use.
Aren’t the people that come into our lives something like this ? Each one is a gift? its either we use them or we don’t ? I know for some you love it so much that you fear losing it — so you lock it away and never use it.. take it out from time to time. But wont the gifts we treasure most stay with us?
Even when those gifts get broken we sometimes piece it together and stick it don’t we? but we still keep it.. its just not in its original form. So to sometimes we hurt others and they are shattered in pieces — they pick up the pieces and try again. We too are the gifts for others and if they treasure us we will not be broken that easily but when they don’t we too pick up the pieces.. don’t we?
Everyone that steps into our lives is a gift — how you treasure that gift determines if they are life long gifts or not. Some gifts expire don’t they? Like a box of chocolates.. serves its purpose (maybe get you fat lol) and then its gone… U may remember the gift but its gone — you cant get it back unless you get another box of chocolates.. Some people come into our life and they leave — they serve their purpose and then they are no longer there.
Some are healthy gifts — they are good for you but you just don’t like how it taste :( But even these have expiry dates. But they have helped you on your way. So too some people walk in and help us on our way and disappear. All in all if we take everyone as a gift and cherish the purpose they serve we can get rid off a lot of heartache and frustration instead of harboring hate and anger.
Take the gift of each person ..cherish who they are — we often walk out peoples lives becasue things dont serve us or we have fears battling within — but dont walk out the stage in the middle of a song.. listen to the very last note :)
I sat among some really blessed souls tonight and I found myself just looking around me. The winds in the trees softly caressing my face as I listened to someone talk to us about illness – how what we choose to believe is what is in our reality. If we believe we are the body then we are.. but if we believe we are not of the body..then we are in that knowing that all else is disposable. He says just like our clothes are disposable, so to our body is disposable. The soul wears the body – the body does not wear the soul.
As I quietly looked around me some more.. I saw this woman sitting on the ground – her eyes was closed but she was smiling.. she was singing along to the melody that the others was singing but she had this serene look… she was so happy..and I asked myself – is this happiness ? I saw it .. on her face – it was like nothing else mattered – she was just connecting with her true source and her entire being was lit up.
Some go this lifetime without even experiencing what that feels like. As the night went along I heard singing … words I didn’t understand but I felt it in my soul. I took up the book to which they were singing from and I glanced at a line – it stated “we are all on our journey with different paths.. sometimes some have straight paths and some have crooked paths.. but it all leads to YOU.” I smiled and recalled from childhood to now how all we do is try to teach others what is the right way.. there is no right way ..
We connect with so many different souls on this journey home.. some connections we understand and some we don’t understand .. Some trigger emotions that make us cry, laugh, angry, depressed sometimes all in one day. But these souls are of most importance to our growth. How can we not see that they teach us the most valuable lessons. We cannot escape it as each day we bring about what we think about.
Its amazing how restricted our minds are but when we let go of our fears we give ourselves permission to be who we are with others. I see so many times that marriages come to and end because of possessiveness, jealousies and we sometimes think others will change but what happens is you change who you are to be with someone – or to have someone. It will not last if you cannot be true to who you are. Whatever that may be – yes there suppose to be mutual respect but unless we can live without fearing then we have not really lived .. have we?
So sing your songs and clap to the beat of your heart.. wherever it takes you .. feel free within yourself to be you – be you with everyone in compassion and love – the unconditional kind .. and feel that source of comfort when you close your eyes.. Your soul knows what it needs always.. follow your guidance.
I heard someone say recently – “detachment is key” but how do we achieve that when we are emotionally tied into so many things. We are tied to the laughter of our children – striving to see them happy always, a relationship – when the other person is hurt you are hurt as well – the list can go on and on. How do we detach?
In my perception and what helps me is not really being detached from emotions, or even the people that are causing the emotional conflict but more in the outcome we expect. We are really attached to what we want instead of letting go of the outcome. We can only do what we can .. we have no control over others and how they choose to react to us.
We go day by day trying to make others understand our point of view and that’s ok – we are entitled to state how we feel but the issue lies in when we expect that person to always see things our way and agree with us 100 percent of the time. Everyone have their own values and opinions and once we can allow them to be … then we can detach from the hurt.
Another thing is that sometimes we don’t like to state what we feel and what we would like. We find so many excuses not to say what we would like because we think the person would not do what we want and further more we think we don’t have the right. But its not about having a right – its about making others understand what makes you feel bad. Its about being true to yourself without fearing how you will be perceived.
We cant all read minds of what is taking place in the lives of others. Sometimes it so much easier to just say truthfully .. not demand .. but just say whats on your mind in a very calm suttle way. You would be surprised the reaction you would get when you are confident enough to say your truth. Confidence is sexy they say :)
When we detach and let go of the need to control everything then we are in a state where we are in pure happiness with who we are. Living our state – our truth without holding on to the chains that bind us. We sometimes wish that others can be like us in their thinking but if everyone was like us .. what a boring world this would be right? We should feel excitement in opposition as this helps us to reach sometimes to the core of who we are. It helps us to grow.. to join with that source that ignite our soul into the magical beings we truly are.
Detach from the outcome you expect and try not to control and you would find yourself being in that state of consciousness that is pure bliss. See the beauty in all that IS.
There is a saying…. “You would know someones “character” by the way they treat the ones who can do absolutely nothing for them”. True isnt it… I live my life in awareness of people around me … sometimes i see things that sometimes makes me sad inside. I see others only having time for the ones that maybe can help them move up the ladder or even the ones that are of a certain standard or class. I see sometimes the ones that are not so fortunate go out of their way to make people happy only to be treated as if they do not exist sometimes. Why do this happen? How can one relate to a “nice person” when they treat only the people of status with respect and love and the ones that is not of their standard falls by the wayside.
Treating others with respect gains love and admiration from all around you. Its never lost when you put your time and energy into just loving all that you come in contact with not just the ones that can help you in something or buy something for you. Its never lost when you invest your time and your love to guiding an orphan or even taking care of them. Its never lost when you make the time to listen to the less fortunate and help open a way to a brighter path for them. Its never lost to be LOVE. Cause this is what we are Love .. We cannot find it — its already here … we cannot search for it.
I often wonder what goes through the mind of others who are treated this way… do they feel low self esteem .. do they gain strength from what is in front of them? Do they grow up treating others the same way? We are made of unconditional love .. the kind that does not think about colour, race or status.
I see so many amazing things around me at times — one cannot marry another because they parents want a certain standard or class … totally disregarding the emotions their children are holding within. Some make themselves turn away from something they feel because it does not fall within what the community expects of them. Funny isn’t it . how we neglect ourselves for the people that don’t live the rest of our lives for us.
Never underestimate what you have within to transcend the boundaries that were placed on us. Its never a war when you can be peace with yourself. So allow yourself to feel. Allow yourself to trust that being true to you is your right. If your light is too bright for others when you do this — then hand them a pair of shades :)
Where is the label ?? this was the most important question I heard in a recent thought provoking movie. An alien asked while being on earth – “how do we know where to find the label that God put on us .. how do we know which Company we belong to? Its amazing sometimes how these simple questions provoke your mind and allows you to “think outside the box”. There are no labels – just “us” fragments of the whole… our consciousness creates bubbles as we send our vibrations of our thoughts out there.
This alien was so confused as everywhere he went he heard something different … some say slaughter the cow… some say its sacred… some say take off your shoe to go inside the holy place … some say you can walk in with it… some say to bow your head down to the ground… others say clasp your hands.. for someone who does not know … what does he choose? The label given to him by his parents and community or the label he finds within himself?
I have seen so many people these days caught up in what they want their life to be.. their perceptions of how things should be and what is right from wrong. They try to control and as they do that they fuel the insecurities that lie within. How many of us allow this ? How many of us allow others to take away our own power.. our own right to be who we are ?
We try to make things important in our lives .. the things that make us aware that we are beautiful creatures roaming this earth and on that path home, but walking around with the labels others put on us not God. In my mind he didn’t put a label…there are no labels … just love.
It does not matter if we see labels or not – or if we believe we should be attached to a sect. There is no division.. we created this ourselves… we fueled the rules that man laid down for us to follow. Those walls are slowly coming down as I watch the world rise in consciousness. Our duty ? simple .. take the labels away and live our lives free to be who we are and carry in our hearts the religion of “Love”.
Rest in peace my beloved Sis. Today I was reminded about something from my brother… He told me a story of when I was five years old… I was in a car accident with my family, all I knew I woke up in the hospital after sometime. I was not seeing my family and I started to cry… and asking the nurse to see my sister. I didn’t ask for anyone else but my sister. The nurse had to take me to where she was and it was the only thing that got me to stop crying. Thirty seven years later all I want to do again is see my sis as she lies in the ICU unit at the hospital ,,,only this time … its upon seeing her that makes me cry.
So many lessons from the experiences of others that sometimes we only see when they are gone. My sister chose to stay home and not get an education just to help my mom with us… my other siblings and myself. Throughout her life she had it very hard… she married an alcoholic and her life was in turmoil sometimes but also had some really great times . She managed to have a beautiful daughter who she loved unconditionally and would pamper her to the max. Her grandchildren she lived for and till her stroke she did everything possible for them.
I watched my sister and mom live in the same house but at times at each others throats, but I remembered something today. There was a time my Mom was having open heart surgery and she was not responding to anything or anyone for two days. I remember leaving the hospital and I called home and my sis was waiting by the phone… I told her mom was not responding and I can her her screams right as I said that. Her tears were falling profusely. It mattered not what wrong my mom did or what arguments they had. And today… I saw my mom walk in the ICU unit with tears in her eyes and hands on her head… she would call her name so many times as if she just wanted her to answer… nothing else mattered.
My beautiful sis passed on 11th October, around 5 and I watched them pump her heart to revive her. Inside me I know she was not coming back … what for?? She felt that beautiful unconditional love she came from.
If only that unconditional love we have within can just shine through all the time instead of periodically what a wonderful world this would be. If that unconditional love can extend to mankind and not just the ones in our circle how much more we would feel at peace. In times of despair and fear of losing a loved one that unconditional love comes from within just like that – no questions asked – no permission needed – nothing else matters… its just there and we forget all the wrong others have done to us and we sometimes hope the person forgives us as well.
Forgiveness is the only answer…. Not when they are leaving us but everytime something is done to us. We don’t need to hold on to the grudges as we know it only hurts us. I do hope that in time we can all see past this life and understand that when we awake to our reality all these emotions do not exist.
On my journey home I know that I was blessed to have her here with me and more so that we will meet again soon .. Love you sis