How the chords from the different instruments tug at your heart sometimes. Heartstrings I call them. When one can play so beautifully that it plays on not only your heart but your soul. It takes you back to that familiar feeling, so many memories of loved ones that surfaces. The hands clasped, the head sways, the waterfilled eyes.

I came across a few instrumental pieces that took me back to the days of my father. It made me remember not only the person he was but the humbleness of his soul. I like to think I learnt from him. His words never leave my mind. So much wisdom in the old souls. The music tugged at my heartstrings, it brought back the lessons, it brought him to the forefront of my mind. I would sit and watch him say his prayers on a chair, not in a temple, not in a church, not in a mosque but a cushioned chair, his hands in front of him, his eyes closed but still revealing his heart.

I would sometimes interrupt him, parting his hands and finding my way between them, sitting on his lap, thumb popping in my mouth as I found my comfort zone.. playing with his ear. He would slowly bring his hand back together in front of him holding me in his prayer. Heartstrings, he played it so well.

My glance would go across to my mother, sitting at her sewing machine, lost in her passion but the music still made her head sway from side to side.
Beautiful memories, the mixed feeling of love and loneliness that it stirs in a child’s heart. How the closing of the eyes makes you relive all those moments.

Not every piece plays on you but the special pieces that tells its own story. It brings up so many emotions all at once. All this by a few chords, all this by the passion of someone trying to bring out just that in you. How beautiful is the music of the soul. We are so magnificent in our own way. Let the music take your soul and help you to reveal your passion. Find your song, paint on your own canvas and create beauty everywhere you go.

Morning thoughts for me as the headphones in my ear helps me to write my own words. I miss them.. but these chords help me to feel, help me to remember the beauty of their souls and how amazingly lucky I am to have them as parents. I am grateful for each chord that plays on my heart.. it brings to me where I have been to where I am now.. that beautiful journey.

When next you play that music and it takes you back .. I hope it makes your heart smile as it did mines. I would leave a link here to just one of them 😊 I hope it helps you relax as it does me.


This entry was posted on April 8, 2019. 2 Comments


I had to face one of the hardest things yesterday, the funeral of one of my dearest friends.  We were friends  since I was at the tender age of 17.  Her battle with leukemia started from February of this year but I am afraid the battles that manifested this started long before.  It is amazing how we are faced with people that try so hard to smile when the world inside crumbles. They sacrifice to make others around very happy so they swallow their pain.

I watched this beautiful soul battle this everyday with a smile on her face, facing adversity with so much positivity and most of all keeping the faith that she would have come out of this and be pain free.  Unfortunately for the ones that are left behind on this earth we are the ones with the pain and the sorrow but also with the lessons she taught us.  Again the lesson we all seem to forget.. the lesson that time is not ours.

Her battle started not with the diagnosis but with the years leading up to that diagnosis.  Over the years the pain she held inside and the battles she faced within manifested itself.  How many of us do this.  How many of us stop living to please others ?  How many of us sacrifice our own soul and happiness for others.   We go by everyday in a routine hoping that what we do is accepted and enough for others but when that isn’t enough and people change around us our world comes crumbling.

We have people that use the word love so easily but when pain starts they are no where to be seen.   When the sick battles their own demons and we allow them to stay alone in pain, how can one live with that?  There is a saying “What misses us don’t pass us”.  When we lack compassion for human beings .. we create karma on ourselves.  I watched this beautiful soul battle her trials, battle her illness sometimes alone.  I watched people that said that they love her leave her in the most desperate time of her life.

Watching that made me realize yet again that change is constant.  We are ever changing .. what we want today is not what we may want tomorrow.  She was heartbroken .. she was ill but she held on to things that didn’t serve her.  She held on to the  hope in someone that could not help her soul to survive.  They say that everything in God’s timing and I believe that to a point but I also believe we are responsible for creating our lives by the thoughts and decisions we make.  We have the canvas.. we are the ones doing our own painting.

The cycle of life is so unpredictable and time is never ours.  Detachment to the outcome they say is key.  We feed our bodies with the pain and suffering we hold inside.   Are these people worth it ?  Are they worth our health ?  No they are not.  We are not in control of anyone but ourselves.. Let us take control of who we are and not allow them to tarnish our soul or to dictate where we are in life.

Rest in peace my beautiful friend .. your journey is not over yet.. we will meet again


This entry was posted on November 18, 2018. 5 Comments

Chasing a feeling

When we lose someone, when we break up with someone or someone leave our lives ..why does it sometimes hurt to the point where we think we cannot get over it or the person?  Why do we believe that we will take forever to move on.   Why?  I think I understand why.. we remember how the person made us feel.  We remember how much we felt in the heights of passion and intimacy and we chase that feeling.  Not necessarily the person most times, but how much they made us feel .. how much they made us feel alive.

When they leave they break so many things.. our trust .. our smile.. our love that we are not able to invite it in again, and if we do, the other person pays for our fears.. We make decisions, we fear feeling this hurt again so we spend all our lives not allowing.  We miss the opportunities that knock and we steer clear of anything to do with love.  Our armors, our walls go up higher than they were before.

I know it all too well but on that broken road lies so many things that helps us to form who we truly are.  Help us to understand who we are and most importantly help us to grow stronger if we can just hold on to the reigns.  That feeling is what we want.. that feeling of being loved,  that feeling of being understood and more so that feeling of intimacy.  Some stay in that feeling even though the other party does not give back because they hold on to the days that they do feel cherished.  They overlook everything that person does just to hold on to that feeling that make them feel good for a day of two.

What about the ones that had months of great times, laughs, days filled of love and intimacy only to be told “I don’t love you anymore”  and you are left to move on wondering what happened, what you did wrong.  You didn’t do anything wrong.  People are wrapped up in themselves, in their own lives and they lack compassion for others.  Sad but so true.

When we close off the world .. we close of the feeling from ever returning or even being reciprocated in the most beautiful way from the ones that is willing to give us that.  We get so hung up on the person that we forget that it exist out there.  The universe will bring you that which you believe you deserve.  If we believe we deserve one sided love .. then that is what is going to be served.  If we believe that someone will come in and you will have all that you ever want not just the feeling .. then that will be served.

Nothing is harder than watching someone you are in love with treat you with no respect, unkindness and lack of care but in doing that they send you a message.  The message of what we allow for ourselves.   On my journey I  thought many times”I don’t know what I want but I am positive about what I don’t want,.”   We all are positive about what we don’t want,  let us get clear on what we do want and manifest that.

All roads lead somewhere we just have to trust the journey ..  Let us not chase a feeling.. that feeling that we truly want starts with self love.   I am thankful for the ones that walked in and left .. the heartbreak was enormous but in that abandonment showed me what I allowed for myself.  I allowed others to use my kindness, my love, my care when I knew that I didn’t deserve how they treated me.  I allowed it for the sake of love, for the sake of intimacy  just to feel that feeling.  Just to feel loved.

Open your heart to the universe that is filled of unknown miracles.  Bring life to those miracles by believing and trusting your own worth.  Allow those feelings you do want to step in without the barriers.. without the fears.  It is hard.. we are still learning and scared to feel those tears again but it is time to let what we really deserve to come in.. We don’t have all the answers but the feeling of unconditional love is the only feeling that we should accept.  Be unconditional in our love for others and watch how it gets reflected back to us.   The only thing we should be chasing is new ways to shine 🙂



This entry was posted on September 24, 2018. 2 Comments


I want to meet someone ………..
Who sees the dirty corners of her mixed up soul
Who claims her, fucks her, spoils her, cherishes her
Who sees all the faults but still stays
Who makes you feel hollow when he isn’t inside you
Who is territorial because he feels you belong to him
Who brings out the madness within
Who helps you discover your sexuality
Who can make you aroused just by the words “How’s my girl”
Who can walk up behind you .. wraps his arms.. kisses your neck and says “Hi Beautiful”
Who seduces her mind
Who respects her as a lady but owns her in the bedroom
Who can gently rest his hand on her throat and whisper “you are mine”
Who throws his jacket over her when she is cold
Who makes her thoughts race when he is away
Who binds himself to her soul
Who makes you unzip, unhook and undress by just a look
Who holds the door for her to walk in but passes his hands on her as she does
Who welcomes her independence but ties the knot to his wrist
Who holds her when something hurts
Who can ignite the very core of her soul
Who can love the parts she tried to throw away
Who can spend the day talking, kissing, caressing without sex
Who can understand your silence
Who can love the scars on your skin
Who can tempt her mind while making her body wait
Who can look at her from across the room and she knows exactly what he means
Who she can confide in completely
Who can take her trust as the greatest honor and never abuse it
Who can spend his days valuing how he makes her smile
Who leaves cute messages all over for her to see and know she is wanted
Who will leave a fist in the wall when he gets mad at her but won’t exchange her for anything
Who can make her hush during an argument by pinning her to the wall and kissing her
Who can calm her with the sound of his voice
Who values her submission to their love
Who can inhale her sacredness .. but simply breathes life into her
Who can make love to her very existence

A Beautiful Disaster

I came across these words a long time ago never thinking that we all find ourselves in a beautiful mess/disaster sometimes more than once in our lives.  How the sweet pain sometimes play with your happily ever after fairytale.  How the boundaries you set for yourselves and for your life sometimes get threatened by truth.  How the universe throws things in your way that rock the very core of you.. changes your belief system and make you submit to that which lies deep within you.

How else can you live?  Running.. such a natural thing for us humans to do..  Some stay in relationships hiding, bottling, being so afraid to say what they feel.  Some are afraid to step on toes or give the other too much to think about.  Sometimes the intensity too much to bear.. how can these intensities happen ?  how can you feel so much ?  Why is this happening when you cannot do anything about it ?

Sometimes we have to understand what is illusion and what is reality.. merely a perception really.  Some say this world is an illusion .. but aren’t we bound by physicality ?  when we can touch it means it is real.  When we can’t touch it we consider it fantasy.  But I always asked the question why does your soul feel at home in the fantasy than in reality ?  The mind does not know the difference.

When our beautiful disasters happen and most times it happens where you are urged to feel more than touch .. it takes us beyond our own reality.  We are transported to the realm of our soul.. where we feel at home.  We have our everyday lives and then something happens.. someone walks in and shakes that up.  Is it a test ?  is it temptation ?  what is it?  We grow .. we are forced to make decisions.. we are forced to “stand”.  It is the beautiful disasters that shape us into who we are meant to be.

Without it .. we are stuck in other people’s truth.. we are stuck in the belief system we were taught from birth.  We deny our truth.  We won’t grow.   We all have to work through our own storms till we reach the day when someone says to you “the storm is coming.. you can reply “I am the storm”.  The fears we hold within are there for us to heal.  It is put there by circumstances and experiences  that created that fear.. It is up to us to heal the scars it causes.  It takes time but Rome was not built in a day.

Hold on to your beautiful disasters.  Trust they will rock your core.. but also trust that it will shape the beautiful soul you are meant to be.


Someone told me today about influences.. the negative kind.  A wise woman, known her for years .. she is always my voice of reason most times.  She said everyone contributes to the mass consciousness of the world by our thoughts and vibrations.  She said if you narrow that down to your own life and the people around you it is the same thing.

If you have a home where the majority of the people are negative, controlling, manipulative, that will have an impact on you and most times not positively.  It will drain you, get you ill, you will have mood swings, not much clarity and so many different things can happen.  Same with people of light.. if you have most of those type of people around you they will boost your energy, they will give you hope, they will help you to be the best version of yourself, you will feel alive.

What do we do when we cannot get rid of those around us ?  We have to build ourselves, we have to become aware of the impact they have on us.  We have to be aware of what are our thoughts and the thoughts that feed on fear.   Most times we make decisions based on either love or fear.  When we fear anything it becomes a reality but when we align ourselves with our vision of how we want our lives to be then we are the creators of our lives.

Becoming aware of our own energies, taking responsibility for our own thoughts as well as finding ways to get rid of  our fears is the only way to bring ourselves to the realization that we do not have to be influenced by darkness.  We do not have to allow others to steal our joy or steal our energies.  I lived through it and most of us go through this. We have it in our jobs, our homes even when we go to social gatherings.  We become sometimes like the people we spend most of our time with.  That is because we are sometimes sucked in by them and their mentalities.  We sometimes don’t even realize this until we lose ourselves.

Finding a common ground is hard to do.. We battle with what is morally right, what we need to do to keep peace and what we need to do for others to keep us at peace.  But in reality what we are doing is setting ourselves up for unhappiness within.  Some actually think that is ok because we sacrifice for the people.. one big mistake though .. we can never love others or allow them to love us if we don’t first love ourselves.  Respect comes in all forms .. when we choose to control others, make them live under a microscope we project our own insecurities on them thus allowing others to pull back not really move forward. We pour our energies on them and stop them from even becoming a better version of themselves.

Become aware of the projections of the people around you.  If you cannot remove yourself from it become light itself so much so that the dark energies cannot hamper you.  Protect your thoughts, protect the sacredness within you and be the best version of yourself.   Some pour themselves into getting busy so it takes their mind off facing reality.  Time isn’t ours.  We learn that the hard way sometimes and as time passes we take that same lesson for granted.

Trials, temptations, disappointments all these are helps instead of hindrances if one uses them rightly.  We are not separate from our own karma.  What we give to others will for sure reach back to us.  Be aware of how you want to live within yourself .. be aware of the things and people that drain you.  But most of all raise yourself so that even if you are around them that you are able to block that energy.  Find yourself spending time with the ones that uplift you,  the ones that help you to see the beauty in yourself and those that you don’t have to question their love.  It is felt within.





I was reflecting on something that made my heart weak lately and even though I don’t have the answers to anything, praying and detaching from the outcome always seem to be the advice you get.

I realize that people that walk into our lives are not only teachers but triggers, I would even go as far as saying some are mirrors of ourselves.  I am also a trigger for others but when these triggers happen it sends us to a place of hurt and pain.  What it really does is help us to bring up the things that needs healing if we can be aware of it.

We sometimes don’t mean to hurt anyone but our words resembles something that someone else said that hurt us so we go back to that chapter of our lives and we relive that pain and that puts us in a place to feel that everyone that walks in is the same thing.  Not necessarily so, the thing is I have learnt that if we don’t heal it everyone that walks in after is going to trigger the same thing within us.

We walk away from relationships we don’t stick it out.. when someone says something that hurts us we run .. we go into hiding .. we cannot face the reality of the pain that comes with it.   Triggers makes us even say things to people we love because we are tired within ourselves.. it makes us want to do things instead of trying to talk things out and growing from a place of pure understanding.

So what is the pattern?  We end one and try to find something in its place and we say oh this person loves us and it is new and exciting but later in the relationship when all is quiet again we go to a place of self awareness that something is not being fulfilled.  Then we become incomplete all over again.  But how do we heal from those triggers?  Well your guess is as good as mines lol.  Maybe being aware is the first step?  Maybe trying to understand what the trigger did and emotionally realizing how it makes us feel and let it go?

There is a saying “you hurt the ones you love the most” .  Isn’t that right most times.  They are the ones that triggers most within us.  Our job is to feel and understand.   Do we want to understand?  Most times not.  We just want to feel loved and genuinely loved.  There are so many things at play when people go to different paths of life.   One told  me the other day that they don’t feel their thoughts are their own.  Even those things we need to be aware of.  When are thoughts ours and when thoughts aren’t ours.

So many energies around that influence our thinking and our minds that we cant fight them all.  The only thing we can do is to know our truth and what we feel and be honest about that.  We may not always get it right but we will get it eventually, one step at a time .  I am always one for growth.. I always want someone to tell me what they think and how I made them feel.  People don’t remember words but they will always remember how you made them feel.

Sometimes we overshadow the good with the not so good.  We have one time of disconnect and everything else seems to pay the price for it.  Don’t let this happen.  Everyone has good in them .. everyone.  We have to become compassionate to that and help others grow.  We have to shed the negativity that we live with sometimes.  There are times we live in homes where it is a constant battle with our emotions but we just have to stand in your truth always even though you may not physically leave.

I know easier said than done but the triggers we feel inside are helps not hindrances if we use them rightly.  Pondering on what to come next is not what we need but allowing ourselves to heal with what we have right now is necessary.  Find the common ground and honor those triggers as your road to yourself.

People can make you feel so many things .. not good enough, unworthy, unloved, undesired, unwanted all in one sentence.. Don’t take it personally they say but how can you not .. it will continue to happen throughout our lives until that part of ourselves gets healed.   You know what they say – pay attention to the message don’t shoot the messenger.

The key to any successful relationship I always say is to Pay Attention.  The first and foremost is the relationship with self.  Pay attention to the needs within and that which makes you feel all the ugly emotions that bring you down.  Hold the hands that want to help you and allow yourself to heal from within


This entry was posted on May 24, 2018. 4 Comments