Mother, father, sister, brother, friend and the list goes on. Who we are to each other .. the title we came to this earth with. But those titles also came with the expectation of how one should be towards us. We expect a mothers love to be unconditional but there are mothers out there that don’t treat their children with that kind of love and we are forced to abide by it because of the title. We expect brothers and sisters to be there for us on our journey but that don’t happen sometimes.. We expect our friends to always be our friends and show the true meaning of the word but that don’t happen either.
I have seen people question love when it is right in front of them.. I have seen people give misguided loyalty to others. I have seen the outpouring of hearts only for it to be taken for granted.. I have seen people try so hard to convince others of what they feel but for it to be shut down. The truth is we expect people to the think the way we do. We expect others sometimes to love the way we do. Understanding minds are so complex at times because the mind are connected to all the emotions buried so deeply inside.
One said when we don’t expect anything we are never disappointed. I am not sure how we can get there .. that takes so much work to step out of the expectancy of others be it our parents, brothers, sisters or friends. When they hurt us deeply it is because they have not given what we expected, because we form in our minds how these “titles” are supposed to treat us.
But who are we really ? remove the titles .. we are souls on a journey to self. Every single one of us. None is better than the other.. just on a different stage in our journey. We are always teaching someone .. most times we teach people how to treat us. By things we accept.. by things we allow. We are sometimes disloyal to the ones that truly love us for the ones that don’t. But how can we not expect? How can we detach from those expectations strong enough that whenever someone does something it does not affect us.
Are we really alone on this journey? When we view everyone as teachers regardless of the “titles” we realize that they are the ones that push us on our way. When they make you question who you are.. when they question your love .. when they make you feel less of yourself.. when they weren’t there for you in your times of need.. The lessons it brings are huge. We all have the same story in our lives one way or the other.. I have heard countless people say “strangers have done for me what my family didn’t”. But we all have a story like that. In the end .. the universe brought you what you needed at the time to move along on your journey.
We sometimes never forget those hurts.. we choose to judge based on what we think we know instead of trying to understand the true intentions of others. We sometimes don’t give others a chance to explain but we expect others to allow us that right. Everyone wants to be understood but how many take the time too regardless of who the other person is. Actions speak volumes they say and we can surely judge by the actions what someone conveys, but not all times it is so. Everyone is fighting their own demons and most times alone.
With the virus that globally spread we are forced to go back to basics .. we are forced to do without the things we are accustom too .. without the luxuries .. without even being able to breathe in the ocean air.. we are confined.. restricted .. fearful. We can never survive in a fear based world.. but what we are seeing is that most people are now working together to stop something regardless of colour, creed or race. We are forced to cook rather than buy take out .. we are forced to come up with new ways to spend time.. we are forced to see the value of our jobs .. our home and our families.
So no matter what the title is .. remember that everyone is showing us something. What energy we allow in our space.. on our journey home there will be the ones with titles and the ones without, each has its own role. Be compassionate and understanding and know that our crisis is never wasted.. it helps us to the very core of ourselves.
Be safe out there